Pillars of Character 2. Respect

Respect is about valuing someone for who they are and not for what they have or what they look like. Everyone deserves respect, no matter what their skin-colour, achievements, religious beliefs, age or role within the community.

Respect is about not mocking people or gossiping about them, victimizing or bullying them. There is just no justification for doing those things. I told you earlier on about how I was ridiculed for developing breasts before most girls in my class – truth, on reflection is that some women (including those bully-girls) would pay any price to have large breasts. If only I knew it then…

People that are jealous of others often disrespect people and it is important to keep in mind the Biblical principle: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. ”

Respect for others often starts with you. If you lack self-respect, you will not respect others and it is harder to get on with people. When you respect people, your circle of influence is likely to grow from strength to strength.

Respect is cultivated when you are polite to others, even when they are different. It is about being well mannered and not making derogatory comments or doing things deliberately to hurt others.

Sometimes we pretend to have good intentions, yet in our hearts we do not have those same good intentions. Guard against doing that, be a person of character!

We have all experienced a lack of respect from others and it is especially hard for young people, as we are not often ‘heard’ by our elders. I find that very frustrating and hurtful to say the least. When people do this to me, I try to remember that they are losing out on a wonderful discussion and a controversial, possibly life-changing insight into my great mind – their loss! They may never again have the opportunity to learn that valuable lesson that God intended for them to hear from me.

Eleanor Rooseveldt said: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Remember those words next time you cringe into your little corner – you too deserve your little piece of sunshine and you too have value to add. Stand up – speak out and be heard.

You can gain respect is by showing respect and not falling apart when they disrespect you. Boost their self-respect all the time - they will be astonished!