Me time

When you have a family of your own and a home to take care of and a marriage to work on and kids to feed, your own needs are not on the to do list. For now, put yourself first, second and third.

Find a hobby or fun activity, which you can enjoy alone. Ice-skating with friends is not suitable. You need “me time”. Me time can be anything you can enjoy doing alone, at least for an hour or two a week.

It could be something arty such as painting or drawing, sewing, writing, walking, reading or whatever you enjoy, but preferably something that allows your mind to drift as far away from the daily hassles as possible.

The rest of your life should be planned around this time and you should not be disturbed in this time. Friends and family should know that this is your time too.

It can happen to you too

Gonorrhea and AIDS are not the only risks. Aside from broken hearts, shame, regret and emotional damage, following here are some of the major STD’s that you risk contracting when you engage in sex.

Chlamydia - This is possibly the most common cause of sterility in men and women because it usually has no symptoms until it is too late. Approximately half of the people infected are 15-24 years old. If not treated, the infection can cause a potentially deadly infection in women called pelvic inflammatory disease or worse.

Syphilis - In men, non-painful sores appear on genitals, then fever and enlarged lymph nodes. In women, the sores usually go unnoticed and lead to the same symptoms as men. The final stage brings brain disorders, heart disease and death.

Genital Herpes - This incurable disorder brings periodic eruption of painful blisters and ulcers and degeneration of the immune system causing you to become run down and causing you to contract infections easily.

HPV - Human Papilloma virus - In men, wart-like genital growths appear which can lead to cancer of the penis. In women the virus can cause vulvar burning, itching and pain. If not treated, it can develop into cancer. Thirty three percent of women have this virus.

Hepatitis B - Initially, tiredness, dark urine and a gray-colored stool occur. It can cause severe liver damage and lead to cirrhosis and cancer of the liver.

This information is not a ploy to scare you off sex for the rest of your life – I am merely trying to warn you of hard facts that nobody is telling you about, facts that may remain unknown to you and may well destroy your dreams and future.