Saying no indeed is a difficult thing to do, but the consequences of saying yes when we should be saying no often outweigh the short term trauma of just saying no.
When you are pressurized, it is best to just be direct and say ‘no!’ loud and clear. If you are unsure of anything, say no. If it were right, you would have no doubt whatsoever, but that little alarm in your head is a clear enough indicator that it is a no.
Oftentimes, we forget who is doing whom a favour. You may think of doing something kind for someone out of the goodness of your heart and really enjoy the appreciation and you will more than likely offer to do it again. Some recipients of your kindness will soon enough start taking advantage of your kindness and start expecting you to favours for them all the time. Now gratitude has made place for greed and you will be doing them a favour to decline in a nice way. Find something else to keep you busy on that day or just let them down gently.
Perhaps they will be a little upset, but they will get over it sooner or later and you will not end up in an emotional trap.
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