It is normal to want to know everything that has happened in his past; all his previous sexual encounters he had and with whom, in detail, in order to achieve an open and honest relationship. It is a great goal if you could achieve it and share all these intimate details and both you and your partner could forget about it afterwards, it is however not that simple for most people.
Hearing your partner recount some things they shared with another person could haunt you forever - especially if it is with someone you have met or know about. Therefore it is better to speak of your past in general terms and not to go into detail.
Is it always pleasant to know? I do not think so and that is exactly why he may be hesitant to share them with you.
Of course it is important when embarking on a sexual relationship to know some details and possible risks associated with his past.
It is good to remember that you may also have a past that involved sex with other people and you may be hesitant to share this with him. It may be something you'd like to forget.
Past memories are kept in your mind for ages and they are often remembered when you experience smells, tastes or visions from your past and if you share memories with your partner and they notice you acting strange every time you are reminded of an ex, they will also be reminded of that particular incident and may get resentful.
If it is a burden for you to carry, then why put the burden onto him as well? It is much simpler to keep it light and just create your own unforgettable memories and it is always nice to have good memories to go back to. . . Best of all - nobody needs to know!
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